I usually tell a tale of a husband (mine, of course) who is typically a cheapskate. When we dated, I paid for dinners many times over, more than a woman should. I paid for our plane tickets on our first trip together to the East Coast. We stayed in my friend's apartment to save money. To think of it, I always pay for our plane tickets. The last time we traveled, we used our tax refund. As a family, I spend about twice more than he does when we go out to eat as a family. He seldom buys me flowers. When he gives me jewelry, it's usually the cheaper ones. Yes, I am easy.
However, as I get older, I start to resent this. Do I deserve better? I work long hours. My dream of becoming a good mom is on the back burner due to my demanding work. It's my paycheck that pays for our mortgage and health insurance. He kept my stimulus money and the kids' also. I do not ask for my share of the tax refund. I feel like I am generous to him, but he is not.
To be fair, he does more of the share of child-rearing. He does dishes more than me. He feels resentment. I have to remind him that if he wants me to be a typical housewife, he must have more than 1 job. He sees this statement as criticism.
I am ungrateful. That must be the reason that I feel angry. I see only the negative. I said hurtful words in front of the children. The more we argued, the more he felt sorry for himself, and I also felt sad about myself. We are children.
